Thursday, 19 November 2015

Social Media ~ You're Never Alone

With so much noise it's hard to think,

It's hard to feel, to remain real,

But what is real, as the layers of self I peal?

Confused & lost, so much noise, so much chatter,

And in the end what does it all matter.

Fun & games in cyber-land to be had,

Watch out kiddies it may drive you mad!

Keeping up with the Jone's on the Facebook wall,

All this connection, but none at all.

Off with the laptop, standby the phone,

Connect with the heart, friends, family or home.

Stop trying to fill the illusion of being alone.

Shanti Kate 78

Transformational Coach

Dance To Transform

Alternative Events UK

Wednesday, 4 November 2015

With The Ability To Focus, Why Choose Negativity?

Inspired by a CD from the teachings of Abraham-Hicks this question has arisen this morning.

As human beings we have the capability to focus on what we choose, we really can pick good feeling thoughts which create and raise higher vibrations in the body, that feel good, give us energy, emanate to others which is then reflected back.

It is unfortunate and a mystery as to why anyone would choose any less? It appears to be something that develops over time, negative thought and feeling habits. When you see children you don't see them going over the same negative feeling, they are in flow. Their thoughts and feelings stream through them; they express what is there, moment to moment and move one.

Somewhere along the way of development, childhood to teens to adulthood we begin to form habits and get stuck. We start to judge, complain, blame, gossip which we then pass down to the next generation. Unfortunately this will continue if as adults we carry on passing the baton of negativity.

I see it often on Facebook, people complaining about the way things are, the blaming "them", keeping the negative, irresponsible, angry vibes going. I really would love to know who we are blaming, who are "they"? We are all in this together; as a collective and I believe the best and first thing one can do is change what is inside & then lead by example. Great that people see things that don't appear right, great there is anger, so use this energy to create change, create positivity because what is the point in blame?

The first step though before trying to change the world, is to change our own habits, not to try change everyone else or the world's.

Responsibility.....the ability to respond.....when we develop our ability to respond and not react we can then begin to lead from a place of wisdom and maturity, but until the individuals's, self-awareness, self-development work is fully explored, until the self-transformation has been exhausted we will continue to point the finger and blame others for the way our world is.

My invitation here is for you to become aware of your focus and how you are feeling; your feelings are a great indicator as to what you are focused on. Begin to take responsibility, develop your ability to respond. It maybe a little difficult at first, usually changing negative habits are hard to break, but when you begin to take responsibility for what you are focused on and how you are feeling you will begin to notice a change in your life, in your world and in your view of the world. You will begin to notice a change in your energy levels and from there you can begin to create a life and a world that you enjoy, that feels good!

If every individual started to take responsibility for their focus and feelings, the world would be a different place!

Comments are welcome below.


Transformational Coach
Tansformational Dance
Alternative Events UK

Thursday, 8 October 2015

Working From Fear or Through Love...

There are two states we can work from, fear or love, each state brings two different sets of questions to my mind.

How can I earn a living?
How can I make a sale in order to survive?
When will my boss give me a raise?
How can I be of service?
How can I use my knowledge in order to support and improve the lives of others?
How can I add value to the company I work for?

Something I have more often than not observed about myself over my working life is I get excited about a new job, a new client, a new training, a new idea and somewhere along the way the excitement dwindles. When things don't go the way I envisaged or my way, the excitement can easily turn to resentment, anger, blame or fear.
I have been building my business for two years, there have been successes and challenges which have come with endless learnings. This morning I was reflecting on a talk I listened to over the weekend online, people were discussing being in service or being of service. There's a real fine line between the two and it has taken a few days for the ah haa moment to come from that talk for me.
A pattern I am noticing in my work life is an inspired thought or idea will come in, possibilities will begin to open in my mind, I start to plan potential business models for the idea, it's exciting, it's possible and then a question comes in "right how can I make money from this". As I type this knowing I will post it as part of my blog emotions start to stir, shame of wanting or needing money and fear of what will people think, I recognise my fears around the subject of money and then need to please others for approval. Back to the question "how can I make money from this idea" I recognise this question comes from a place of fear, it comes from a place of believing there is not enough to go round, it comes from a place of believing I need to compete to survive, it comes from fear based beliefs that have built invisibly over many, many years. From my formative years, from school, from work and from society, it is now my choice to shift the focus in order to shift the beliefs and my life experience.
So what if I shift my focus from to fear to love, what would the question(s) be? How can this idea and business model serve others, how can I use my knowledge to be of service to others, how can what I know be supporting others, how can I use my skills to make a positive difference in the world, how can I be of service?
When I ask these questions from love my emotional state shifts, I feel calmer, I feel surges of energy flowing through my body, I feel trust in myself and in life itself, I feel a certainty, a knowing, I feel there is enough, I feel I can live, I feel in flow.

An interesting morning reflecting on my own experience of working from fear or love. So now my question is over to you, do you work from a place of fear or love?

Comments are welcome below.

Shanti Kate 78

Transformational Coach
Tansformational Dance
Alternative Events UK

Monday, 17 August 2015

The Fisherman & The Businessman

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The Fisherman & The Businessman ...

One day a business man was on holiday in Brazil sitting on the beach. As he sat, he saw a fisherman rowing a small boat towards the shore having caught a few big fish.
The businessman was impressed and asked the fisherman, “How long does it take you to catch so many fish?”
The fisherman replied, “Oh, just a short while.”
“Then why don’t you stay longer at sea and catch even more?” The businessman was astonished.
“This is enough to feed my whole family,” the fisherman said.
The businessman then asked, “So, what do you do for the rest of the day?”
The fisherman replied, “Well, I usually wake up early in the morning, go out to sea and catch a few fish, then go back and play with my kids. In the afternoon, I take a nap with my wife, and evening comes, I join my buddies in the village for a drink — we play guitar, sing and dance throughout the night.”
The businessman offered a suggestion to the fisherman. “I could help you to become a more successful person. From now on, you should spend more time at sea and try to catch as many fish as possible. When you have saved enough money, you could buy a bigger boat and catch even more fish. Soon you will be able to afford to buy more boats, set up your own company, your own production plant for canned food and distribution network. By then, you will have moved out of this village and to Sao Paulo, where you can set up HQ to manage your other branches.”
The fisherman continues, “And after that?”
The businessman laughs heartily, “After that, you can live like a king in your own house, and when the time is right, you can go public and float your shares in the Stock Exchange, and you will be rich.”
The fisherman asks, “And after that?”
The businessman says, “After that, you can finally retire, you can move to a house by the fishing village, wake up early in the morning, catch a few fish, then return home to play with kids, have a nice afternoon nap with your wife, and when evening comes, you can join your buddies for a drink, play the guitar, sing and dance throughout the night!”
The fisherman looked puzzled, “Isn’t that what I am doing now?”

There is so much pressure to be successful that the "why" can be over looked. A month ago I wrote my ideal earnings and what this could bring into my life.

Today I reviewed what I had written and realised 80% of what I desire is already in my life or possible for me to experience without the ideal earnings, which reminded me of this story.

Comments are welcome below.

Shanti Kate 78

Transformational Coach
Tansformational Dance
Alternative Events UK

Thursday, 21 May 2015

What is success & how to measure it

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What is success & how to measure it...

Everyone will have a different answer to this question. This is my reflection which I hope you can learn from. I write about my personal relationship with the word and meaning of success and how recently I have started to reflect on what success means to me, where the meaning came from, what effect does it have on me and is it time to change my success blueprint & how?

Where did my meaning of success come from?
Growing up in a middle class family I learnt (unconsciously) that success is having money in the bank, lots of luxury items, a large house, a good job, going on holiday abroad, a BMW on the driveway, weekly food shopping in Waitrose, money to spend on luxuries and shopping trips in London. 

It was great having all this growing up, then I left home for university and I have NEVER recreated this experience. When I reflect on this it is not because I don't have the ability to go out in the world have a great career, get the money, the house, the car and luxury lifestyle, it is because even with all this stuff in my family I was never truly happy.

What effect does the meaning have on me?
As I write this more ah haa moments start to click in the mind, more realisations of my incongruence, more realisations on why I continuously feel like a failure, why when friends tell me how inspiring I am or how much love they see or how great I am or when people tell me "you are so wealthy beyond the means of money" I feel perplexed & surprised at what they see & say, I automatically delete the positive feedback as they can't be right because I don't have all the results of what I unconsciously picked up to be success.

The key for me and probably for most, is happiness, actually happiness is not the key, happiness is the result. Happiness for me is the way to measure success. As a child I had all the material results of what I was unconsciously lead to believe was success but I was never truly happy. 

What I realise now is my unconsious conditioning has always been cropping up telling me I am a fraud, a failure, people are going to find me out and see what a fraud I am.

What I realise now is that my conditioning of what success is keeps me from feeling truly at peace and happy in life.

Is it time to change the blueprint & how?
Yes it is most definitely time to change the blueprint! 

How can blueprints/conditioning be changed?

Firstly it's already shifting, the other day I took all my dreams, desires and goal lists for 2015  down off my wall, I felt like a failure, things aren't manifesting how I dreamt. I voiced my feelings to a friend that I felt like a failure and then I started to reflect & question..."why do I feel like a failure?" What is success to me?" "where did that meaning coming from?" "can I change it and how?"

My emotions coming up that were not joy were a dead give away that something needs to be looked at. 

Step one....Awareness of my emotions
Step two....Questioning what is happening....what am I feeling......why am I feeling this....what thoughts am I believeing and how is it effecting me
Step three...Now that I have become aware of this what can I do next?

Finding my new ways....
At the beginning of April I went on an amazing, transformational, 10 day teacher training to learn the Ecstatic Awakening Dance Method. During these 10 days I was given a new model of the "keys to success", I believe this was actually the first point of change around what I was believing about what success is. I read the "key of success" and realised my goodness I have all these keys, I like this model it helps me to feel good.

Yesterday I started to reading Esther and Jerry Hicks "The Astonishing Power of Emotions" again another new understanding of what is the result of success...the feeling of joy!

How do I measure success? (the new model)
Happiness, joy and when I feel good.

How will I ensure my success? 
By seeking new models, replacing new beliefs and using my body as a key. 

Find new blueprints, ways & beleifs from others who inspire me.

Look at my options; What makes me feel good in life? What else can I beleive that would support me to feel better within myself? What else can I do to feel successful, to feel good?

Use my emotional system when seeking new beleifs, models, systems, dance methods....does it feel good....yes, keep, drop it!

Keep dancing!!! Keep moving!!! Keep Feeling!!!

Shanti Kate 78

Transformational Coach
Tansformational Dance
Alternative Events UK

Tuesday, 21 April 2015

How To Make One Hell Of A Profit And Still Get To Heaven

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Recommended Reading...

Six months ago whilst being coached I was given this book by the coach, I read up to the part that is relevant for me currently financially and followed it to the letter. I don't know how but I have reduced my money owing to various lenders/friends by £2.5K, I haven't earned much extra money, my earnings are minimal but some how changing my financial mindset and systems by reading this book has changed the flow and what I am attracting.

I can't recommend it enough if you struggle with money, it is more to do with your thinking and how much you value you as a person. The universe is always responding to how much you value yourself.

Step by step lifetime habits can change :)

Dr John Demartini (Author) - he started out as a healer who want to help, ended up attracting all the people who wanted his services for free and ended up it A LOT OF DEBT. His money situation had to get get really painful until he said enough is enough.

"How To Make One Hell Of A Profit And Still Get To Heaven" Paperback – 1 Jul 2004 by Dr John Demartini (Author)

Shanti Kate 78
Transformational Coach,
Alternative Events UK,
Love Biodanza

Monday, 20 April 2015

The uncomfortable comfort zone...

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The uncomfortable comfort  zone...

After pushing myself for four days working, then waking up feeling emotional and tired I turn inwards. The questions “why am I doing what I am doing?” and “why am I pushing myself so hard to do what I am doing?” have been arising in me recently.

This morning I have allowed myself to stop, to breathe, to cry, to allow, to feel and then the realisation came. I have spent much of my life in flight & fight mode, in fact I am told that at my birth I did not want to come out, fighting with life itself right from the very start!

My childhood was materialistically safe, comfortable, well nurtured, however the family unit was emotional chaos with feelings of discomfort, of not being safe, of wanting to run away, with the flight mode engaged a lot of the time & if it wasn't the flight mode then it was fight mode.

I am beyond blaming my past for my current life/state, more intrigued how can I re-set myself to a healthy state of well-being, take responsibility for where I am at.  This morning I realise of course, my comfort zone is discomfort. Discomfort is the familiar, the feeling of not feeling safe is the comfort zone, feeling edgy & in survival mode. I consistently recreate what I have always known even if it appears and feel uncomfortable it is comfortable. Quite the paradox!

It’s a challenge to re-set patterns of a life time, the last three months have been a dance between pushing and surrendering. It’s like I am on the edge of trusting life but I can’t quite allow myself to fully trust and fall off the edge.

I have got the point of having enough of; pushing, fighting, struggle, competing, rising, challenge, of “doing” alone. I feel ready for being, to; allow, surrender, flow, dance, be seen and to be part of a circle, a collective.

At the moment, for me, it is a merry dance between the yang & yin, the masculine & feminine, but without really knowing the yin, the feminine, it can only be an unfolding of discovery.

With grace I fall into a new way of being, of letting life live me.

Shanti Kate 78
Transformational Coach,
Alternative Events UK,
Love Biodanza